We all know that the possibility of death is always there. We understand that, but somehow we just never combine that possibility with the death of a child. We’re thinking in terms of other people than children — grandparents, an aunt who lived to be nearly a hundred, or the neighbor we knew who lived in the nursing home for the past twenty years.
Never, ever do we think death is going to touch us in the form of child loss! And, when it does, our first reaction is often, “This is not real! It can’t be! My child is alive. This is some kind of mistake.” We freeze and won’t allow reality to enter our minds just yet because it’s just too painful. The thought of our child being gone forever is more than our hearts can bear to imagine!
Losing a child creates all kinds of emotions that we’ve never felt before. There is an inner emptiness that can never be described in human terms. We know what it feels like to miss someone we love………..but to miss a child is so very different from any kind of sorrow known to mankind. There is a yearning, a longing, a feeling of being so incomplete that our heart feels like it’s going to break in two. There is an emptiness that reaches clear into our very souls!
For those who don’t know, my name is Clara Hinton, and I’m the author of the book, “Silent Grief” — a book about child loss. But more than this, I’m a mother who has experienced six miscarriages, one stillbirth, and the death of a 13-year-old sister. Many painful experiences have touched my life, but nothing compares to the pain of “the empty place at the table.”